Letting go off your past is the best gift you can give yourself. In the process of forgiveness you grant more willpower and strength to yourself. Make an attempt to get over things that have already happened considering the fact that it's over and bringing it back will only make you waste your resources. It's not for the relationship or the person that you need to forget, it's for yourself.
The only way for any past situation to not affect your present is to delete it from your mind; as if it never happened. Practically speaking, the memories and thoughts would keep coming back but if we make conscious attempt to not pay attention to those, they will stop appearing. It's for your mental peace that you must choose to forgive and forget.
By concentrating on the present and making plans for the future, we put our energy in the right place, a place which is in our control, a place which can be improved by our efforts. Thinking about the past pulls you towards itself, which in reality you can't even change as it is a thing of the past.
Forgiving the person heals your mental wounds really fast; in fact engrossing yourself in the past aggravates our emotions and attracts the negative energies associated with that incident. That's why we remember the incidents where something unjustified happened to us in the past, so well. That's because we still have the feeling of revenge in our minds and your mind keep planning, questioning and analyzing the situation. This altogether depletes our energies and makes us our past our focal point. While successful people are the ones who only concentrate on the future, on the things that are happening in their life, on their goals, mission and ideas and they constantly make plans to attain that. Forgiving and forgetting your past has to be more on a mental sphere than verbal.
Forgiveness also offers amazing health benefits. People who face unresolved issues, anger, and resentment, or who keep unpleasant past events in their mind face risks of anxiety and depression. Forgiveness creates more open space in mind, lets you think beyond your uncontrollable. Forgiving people are more productive and joyful. Happy people radiate positive energies and attract company, appreciation, acceptance, love and associations.
Let go off the unpleasant situations of the past by creating a positive thought in your mind about that person or incident fully understanding that it happened because of a reason. Think that it was that moment when the other person felt he was doing the right thing. It's a fact that attaining that state of mind is not easy; but overcoming the toughest barriers gives the greatest results.
If at any time in the future, that incident comes back to your mind, make an attempt to not pay attention on it. The more attention you pay, the more you bring it back into your life. Whenever a thing of the past comes to our mind and brings with itself sad memories, just say to yourself - 'Oh I don't remember anything about it. I don't even know if it ever happened'. One has to forgive and forget from deep within and then press on the delete button. To lead by example, you need to set one and looking forward sets your mind straight in the right direction. If you want people to be drawn to you, you need to show the world a fresh perspective with no baggage of the past.
“Forgive, forget and move on. It's the only way out” - Noetic Alchemy
“As I walked out the door towards the gate that would lead to my freedom, I knew if I didn't leave my bitterness and hatred behind, I'd still be in prison” - Nelson Mandela