Have you ever noticed how someone's behavior contradicts what he says? Or, have you ever found it difficult to regulate your body in particular situations because all you could think about was how nervous you are?
That is because body language is the unspoken element of communication that we use to convey our true feelings and make our messages more powerful.
Many people ask this question: Why is body language so crucial?
According to studies, the nonverbal expression has 65% to 93% more influence than actual text in the communication process. This suggests that "how to say it" is more significant than "what to say".
When things are going badly, it can be difficult to smile. However, a 2003 study by Simone Schnall and David Laird found that faking a smile can deceive your brain into thinking you're happy by generating feel-good hormones known as endorphins.
This may appear strange at first.
If smiling for no apparent reason feels weird, find a reason to smile. You could smile at the thought of your smile making someone else happy. They might return your smile, giving you a real reason to keep smiling. Indeed, our entire body and physiology can have an impact on our ideas and moods. We can modify our external state by changing our inner state.
It may also surprise you to learn that the vast majority of messages that we give other people are non-verbal, such as facial expressions, gestures, or even the way we hold ourselves while we’re talking. For this reason, we must try to think about the messages we’re conveying with our body language.
If I told you to show me how someone would appear if they were depressed, you’d probably know exactly how to portray them: you would slump with your head down, looking grim.
If I asked you to show me how someone would appear if they were angry, you could do that with ease, too.
Now think about how a person who is happy and feels high in life would appear. What would their facial expression be like? How would they be standing? Is there a particular way they’d be moving? Where might their hands be? Are they likely to be making any gestures? What tone would their voice take? How fast or slow would they be talking?
If you can act like someone who feels good, your internal state will change and your vibration will rise. You might be concerned that this is an unhealthy way to raise your vibration. But the idea that you can ‘fake it ’til you make it’ has been proven many times.
For example, Muhammad Ali famously said, ‘To be a great champion, you must believe you are the best. If you’re not, pretend you are.’
Take for example Ali’s fight with Sonny Liston. Just before the fight, Ali was an underdog, but he chose to act like he was going to whop Liston – boasting and bragging about it to fans – and, in the fight, he did.
Amy Cuddy, a social psychologist, is well-known for her research on how body language affects not just how others see us, but also how we perceive ourselves. According to a paper co-authored by Cuddy, doing one of three power postures for two minutes a day can result in a 20% spike in the confidence hormone testosterone and a 25% decrease in the stress hormone cortisol. According to that article, the so-called 'power poses' are a quick and easy method to feel more powerful.
Some people get the wrong end of the stick and claim to possess a particular asset or talent to gain attention from others and feel better about themselves. However, if you simply act in a certain way to boost your confidence and make yourself feel better about where you are headed, it becomes a useful technique. This imagined confidence will eventually transform into true confidence, and the closer you are to it by matching vibrations, the more genuine it will become.
Practice makes a man perfect.
“If you feel like you shouldn’t be somewhere: Fake it. Do it not until you make it - but until you become it.” - Amy Cuddy
Our bodies influence our minds, just like our minds influence our bodies. And it is our actions that affect the results of what we do. That is if you are afraid to speak and speaking is part of your profession, you have no choice but to bite the bullet. Every time you give a speech, you must practice it until you are well prepared. There will always come a day when you realize you are no longer scared and nervous. It is the same for body language.
Body language is crucial in job interviews, professions, and everyday life. Paying attention to body language can have a significant impact on your behavior and help you reach better results.
So, the next time you feel nervous or like you can't do it, stretch your body, smile, and tell yourself, ‘Fake it until you make it!’