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From Self-Doubt to Self-Love: A Guide to Loving Yourself

Have you ever questioned how much you truly love yourself? How available are you for yourself? How often do you spend time in solitude, simply being with yourself?

Someone once posed a thought-provoking question: “If I asked you to name all the things you love, how long would it take for you to name yourself?

This question is a stark reminder of how many of us neglect self-love. Society often conditions us to care more about what others think of us than what we think of ourselves. This issue runs deeper than we might realize.

The Hidden Cost of Neglecting Self-Love

We are taught to care about how others perceive us but often avoid focusing on how we feel about ourselves. This creates a society where people strive to impress others to feel liked, yet remain unsatisfied because they don’t genuinely like themselves.

Sure, it feels great when our talents are recognized, our work rewarded, our achievements applauded, or our looks appreciated. In these moments, we feel validated and loved. Life feels good. But this external validation keeps us on a constant quest to please others and prove our worth.

We end up creating financial pressures by buying things we don’t need to impress people who don’t care about our well-being. We change ourselves to fit in rather than changing the world by being authentic. We alter our natural beauty to meet societal expectations. We chase endless external goals, neglecting our spiritual growth.

The Power of Kindness and Love

The power of love and kindness is enormous, and sharing it with others can transform the world. But we must also be kind and loving towards ourselves. Instead of changing who you are, start allowing yourself to feel good. If we don’t treat ourselves with the kindness and respect we deserve, we become insecure, and this affects our confidence, attitude, and health. This struggle makes it difficult to show love towards others as we’d like, which in turn affects the love we receive.

People are naturally drawn to those who gracefully accept themselves. For this reason, self-love is a vital element in building strong relationships. When you accept yourself as you are, you prioritize your well-being and joy. You’ll be content with the idea that not everyone will accept you, and that’s okay. You’ll know your worth, so it won’t matter if others don’t recognize it. Unfortunately, many people look for flaws in others because they don’t accept themselves.

Is Self-Love Selfish?

Do you think it’s selfish to put yourself first? Context matters. For instance, if a pie is cut into eight equal pieces and there are eight hungry people, it would be selfish to take two pieces. However, it’s often crucial to prioritize yourself. You have a lot of energy to give, but you must reserve some for yourself. You entered this world alone, and you’ll leave alone. Your longest relationship is with yourself. Only when you manage this relationship well can you manage your relationships with others.

Lessons in Self-Love from "Good Vibes, Good Life"

Here are two other valuable lessons from Vex King’s book:

  1. Master the Law of Vibration: Regulating your emotions in addition to understanding the law of attraction will propel you to success. Control your emotions and make your ambition a reality.

  2. Set Boundaries: Boundaries are necessary in your social life. Without them, you can't cut out toxic people and focus on yourself.

Final Thoughts

“Self-love is the balance between accepting yourself as you are while knowing you deserve better, and then working towards it.” - Vex King

You won’t always be needed by others, so it’s essential to be important to yourself. Learn to enjoy your own company. Take care of yourself. Encourage positive self-talk and become your support system. Your needs matter, so start meeting them yourself instead of relying on others.

Remember, self-love isn’t just a buzzword; it’s a foundation for a fulfilling and authentic life. Start loving yourself today, and watch how it transforms your world.

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