Good Vibes Good Life
“Self-love is the balance between accepting yourself as you are while knowing you deserve better, and then working towards it.” - Vex King.
A happy life may not always stem from more money, more goods, or a different career. Finding out what makes you happy and then doing it is the key to living a fulfilling life.
Since you won't always be needed by others, you should be important to yourself. Learn to enjoy your own company. Take care of yourself. Encourage positive self-talk – and become your support system. Your needs matter, so start meeting them yourself. Don’t rely on others.
Someone once asked the question: ‘If I asked you to name all the things you love, how long would it take for you to name yourself?’
This question serves as a reminder that many of us neglect self-love. It’s the result of a common problem within our society: we are conditioned to care more about what others think of us than what we think of ourselves. Learning to interact effectively with other people and getting them to like you will help you to achieve your goals.
But there’s a deeper issue that must be addressed first: ‘Do you like yourself?’
We learn to care about how others feel about us but avoid focusing on how we feel about ourselves. This creates a society in which people try to impress others to be liked, but deep down they remain unsatisfied because they don’t like themselves.
Admittedly, it’s nice when your talents are recognized, when your work is rewarded, your achievements applauded or your looks are appreciated. In these moments we justify our existence. We’re flattered. We feel loved. We feel important. Life feels good.
But we continue on a perpetual mission to please others, to prove our worth. We create financial pressures by buying things we don’t need so that we can impress people who care little for our well-being. We change ourselves to fit in, rather than changing the world by being ourselves. We alter our natural beauty to adapt to societal expectations. We strive for endless external goals while neglecting our spiritual growth.
The power of love and kindness is enormous, and sharing it with others can transform the world. But we must also be kind and loving towards ourselves. Instead of changing who you are, start permitting yourself to feel good.
Transform your world and you’ll hone the skills needed to change the world around you. If, as happens very often, we don’t treat ourselves with the kindness and respect we deserve, we become insecure, and this affects our confidence, attitude, and health. This results in a struggle to show love towards others in the way we want to, which, in turn, affects the expressions of love we receive.
People tend to enjoy being around, and fall in love with, those who gracefully accept themselves. For this reason, self-love is a vital element in building strong relationships. When you accept yourself as you are, you emphasize your own well-being and joy – and you will be content with the idea that not everyone will accept you as you are. You’ll know your worth, so you won’t care if others don’t recognize it. In fact, you will come to understand why they don’t recognize it. Unfortunately, most people look for flaws in others because they do not accept themselves.
Do you think it’s selfish to put yourself first? Depending on the context, it can be selfish to think of yourself and not others.
For example, if a pie is cut into eight equal pieces and there are eight hungry people in the room, it would be selfish of you to take two pieces. However, it’s often important to put yourself first. You have a lot of energy to give, but you must save some of that energy for yourself. You came into this world alone and you’ll leave on your own. Your longest relationship in life is with yourself. Only when you manage this relationship well can you manage your relationships with others.
My three favorite book lessons are as follows:
1. You must master the law of vibration and regulate your emotions in addition to the law of attraction. Because controlling your emotions and making your ambition a reality will propel you to success.
2. Boundaries are not rigid - they are required in your social life. Unless you set boundaries, you won't be able to cut out toxic people from your life and work on yourself more.
3. And lastly, you must choose whether to plant good or harmful seeds in your subconscious mind throughout your life.